:: not work ::
i have had a truly rotten, awful week. the kind of awful that you can compare to other kinds of awful and it still seems bad. the kind of awful you can't ignore. the kind that feels like it's causing instantaneous ulcers.
it has me alternately weeping on my husband's shoulder, bawling in the car, and staring into the middle distance dazedly.
i'm having trouble making myself eat, which is a weird thing that happens to me when too much of this kind of fight-or-flight stress courses through me.
and usually, my work is something that helps me get through those times. like knitting and watching crime shows, working is usually something that kind of backburner's the anxiety so that i can feel normal for a bit.
this week, though, work's not working.
it's not helping.
i don't want to do it.
i want to curl up in a snuggle with my little boy. i want to read harry potter (it's my first time through - we've just started the first book). i want to watch felicity on netflix. i want to be quiet. i want to listen to music. i want to sit next to my husband without talking. in fact i want him around more or less constantly.
i want to shut my computer and leave it shut, unless maybe i need to open it to turn on the next episode of felicity. i get to the studio and don't want to be here.
and i'm not sure what to think about this. i'm not sure what it means, if anything, that all i want to do right now is not work.
obviously it's not a choice to put work aside. i've got orders to fill, clients waiting on me, emails piling up higher than a young boy's falsetto. i have orders to print (that's what brought me in to the studio today, when what i really wanted to do was curl up with my head on my hubby's lap on my in-laws' couch and watch the DIY channel, hearing my kids playing nearby but without them disturbing me).
i've built this thing, this business, to need me and my frequent attention, but i haven't yet figured out how to negotiate the times when i don't want its incessant calls to action.
have you?
Hannah Stephenson · 684 weeks ago
When I shift into this mode, it helps me to remember that anxiety is a reaction to feeling something....it's trying to protect/prevent me from feeling what is there.
A very wise therapist once told me that flare-ups of emotions (the intense experience of them) last about 7 minutes on their own. That if the feeling is continuing, usually our thoughts are making the feelings stick around. She always said that emotions are like waves, and we have to let them wash over us and recede.
It's not always easy for me to remember this, but it was helpful.
Be kind to yourself right now.
JClark · 683 weeks ago
thinking of you.