tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34656426266480125532024-03-13T08:49:29.062-04:00Up Up, The BlogAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03753553949885480109noreply@blogger.comBlogger774125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3465642626648012553.post-51816434206543560322012-09-30T12:16:00.001-04:002012-09-30T12:16:28.071-04:00on why i'm not blogging (at least for now)<br />
i blogged here regularly for almost six straight years - sometimes daily, sometimes less than that, but i was here often and happily.<br />
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and then this summer i just stopped writing.<br />
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for better or for worse i came to see that blogging was taking away from my ability - and my need - to communicate directly with the people in my life. i would put everything all on the line here on the blog and then sort of blindly hope that the people who i needed to know those things would read them, understand what they meant for me and for them, and respond in some appreciable and appropriate way.<br />
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and it does work that way sometimes. sometimes i write here about the things i find it really hard to say in real life, and then the right people read those things and eventually sort of find a quiet moment to tell me everything is okay or what i am feeling is normal or that they are feeling it, too.<br />
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mostly, though, it was <i>other</i> people - not the ones i was trying to kind of telepathically communicate with - who would pull me aside (literally or over email or whatever) and say that what i'd written had touched them and they found me brave and whatnot.<br />
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it will be those people who will bring me back to blogging if and when i return. it's those people who make me feel like blogging brings me closer to having some kind of meaning or purpose in my life. for whatever reason i'm blessed with a certain vulnerability and willingness to share that vulnerability, and i do feel like that vulnerability is the key to how i connect with and can help better the lives of other people.<br />
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but i've come to think that even though blogging honestly the way i do looks like bravery to a lot of people, for me it became a way of making myself <i>less</i> vulnerable and therefore <i>less</i> brave. it makes me - has made me - less capable of being vulnerable with real people in face-to-face communication. i feel that is robbing me of something i need and that the people i love need <i>from</i> me.<br />
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blogging can't be my own means of communicating with the people in my day-to-day life. it can't be a surrogate for talking about what's happening in my life, how i'm feeling about it, etc., because it's too one-directional. i need to rekindle my ability to participate in bi-directional communication.<br />
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so i'm taking some time off. i'm not sure how or when i'll be back, but i do feel like i will want to eventually. i feel like i'll want to keep on making those crucial, vulnerable, brave connections with people i don't know. like i'll want to continue encouraging people to get the yucky stuff OUT into the world instead of inside their heads, and encouraging that by doing it. but i can't keep doing it at the expense of being able to get the yucky stuff OUT into my own daily world, if that makes any sense.<br />
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i've missed blogging the last few months, but i've also surprisingly not missed it. i haven't felt compelled to do it the way i used to.<br />
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am i communicating better in my life? maybe yes, maybe no. but at least i feel like i'm not doing the kind of indirect, smoke-and-mirrors faux-communicating i was doing before, writing all kinds of things and just hoping they'd magically get to their right recipients. so at least there's that.<br />
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see ya when i see ya.<br />
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<b><i>(and if you want to keep up with my non-personal-business-y stuff, there's always <a href="http://shop.upupcreative.com/blogs/blog" target="_blank">the shop blog</a> and <a href="https://www.facebook.com/upupcreative" target="_blank">my up up creative facebook page</a>).</i></b><br />
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03753553949885480109noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3465642626648012553.post-80610251934364950592012-07-08T11:39:00.000-04:002012-07-08T11:39:06.537-04:00what if?<br />
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so here's a question that's been asking itself in my head since last i wrote: what if i'm not depressed? what if i'm just ridiculously, chronically, exhaustingly, painfully stressed out?</div>
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or, what if i am depressed, but what if it's <i>because</i> i'm ridiculously, chronically, exhaustingly, painfully stressed out?</div>
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it's a worthy and empowering thought anyway.</div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03753553949885480109noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3465642626648012553.post-87634297262702777902012-07-05T12:32:00.000-04:002012-07-05T12:32:39.848-04:00oh the things i'll achieve!<br />
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i find that the older i get, the more depressed i get.</div>
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strangely, though, i don't actually feel like my sads are particularly sadder than before, nor do i feel like i spend any less time <i>happy</i> than i did before, which is weird. my joys are as joyous as they ever were. i laugh as much. i <i>make</i> people laugh as much. i still rock out to my favorite songs when they come on the radio. i still delight in the grand fireworks finale. but some physiological and mental set point seems to be falling lower and lower, and somewhat regularly now i find myself in full-on crisis. </div>
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i make no claims to understand this, and even metaphors, which usually help me both understand and explain how i am feeling, seem to fail me here.</div>
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i'm still on anti-depressants, which i think are what allow me to be here and not some darker, scarier place. and i'm still in therapy, which certainly has helped me better understand some of my more maladaptive behaviors and thought patterns. but objectively speaking, i'm more depressed than i was, say, a year ago, at which point i was more depressed, i think, than i was a year prior to that. </div>
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up until now i have adopted the position that if i was feeling depressed, i needed to make a major overhaul. i have always felt like that's what i've needed: drastic and overarching change. a clean slate. stop writing the dissertation. start a new business. put the kids in full-time daycare and work a more typical 9-5 M-F work week. transfer to a different college. drop out of a particular program. quit a certain job.</div>
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with each big change there comes a sense of sureness: <i>yes. this was the right choice. hooray.</i></div>
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still to this day i believe that each of those choices was the right one. i have never been happier that i gave myself permission to stop writing my dissertation. leaving my corporate IT consulting job and moving home to rochester was surely the best choice for me. i was much happier at cornell than i was at chapel hill. i stand by every single decision. each one put me in a better place than i had been in before.</div>
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but what if i'm only getting it partially right?</div>
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i'm wicked smart and super motivated. what i put my mind to i achieve. i don't just go to grad school. i go to grad school in a field i do <i>not</i> have an undergraduate degree in, i bypass the MA with special permission and head straight into my phd coursework, and i spend two of my five years on prestigious, merit-based fellowships. i take my first job out of college with one of the "big five" consulting firms, which provides me with a signing bonus, a car and a <i>per diem</i>, and moves me to two states i've never lived in before over the course of just six months. i don't just open an etsy shop; i open an etsy shop, code my own e-commerce shop to sit alongside it, revamp that three times over three years, get featured in BRIDES and other prestigious magazines (did i mention that <i>martha stewart living</i> recently requested some of my things to photograph for a story that may or may not be forthcoming?). i don't just start working after realizing that i can't <i>only</i> be a stay-at-home mom, i start overworking. i try to work full time and stay home with them. then i put them in full-time daycare, but not without first <i>starting a new business that has incredibly fierce demands on my time</i>. i don't just transfer to cornell. i transfer after my first semester at unc and then proceed to graduate from college a full year early, with highest honors, and with a GPA that put me among the top 1% at the entire (ivy league) university. when i decide to start running i end up completing my first triathlon. </div>
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i am, to put it <i>mildly</i>, an overachiever. </div>
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which it occurs to me now might just be the problem. or if not <i>the</i> problem, <i>a</i> problem.</div>
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i've had two major and two minor breakdowns in the last four years. four occasions in the last four years when life's demands became too overwhelming for me to continue to function normally. i couldn't eat or sleep. i couldn't be around my kids. i basically could not do the things a person needs to do to get through a day.</div>
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and i feel another one coming on. not, like, this weekend or anything. but in the coming weeks or months.</div>
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which leads me to this: i am a firm believer that the things we do in the space of our recovery from these mental breakdowns can teach us something. they are, as in yoga, counterposes meant to bring our psyches back into a more balanced state. they play yin to the yang of whatever it is that has led to the mental breakdown.</div>
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in my recoveries, i've benefitted the most from the following: talking with other human beings, reading, writing, taking walks, sleeping, being creative, asking for help handling day-to-day stressors, and spending time alone, in the quiet, often outdoors.</div>
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and when i feel better? when i feel better and my recovery period is "over" i usually feel i've done three things:</div>
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1 - i've given myself permission to make whatever change it is i feel i need to make.</div>
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2 - i've sorted out some problem that has been gnawing at me.</div>
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3 - i've figured out some new direction to move in.</div>
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and then i move in that direction. swiftly and with determination. at which point i promptly stop: talking with other human beings, reading, writing, taking walks, sleeping as much, being creative, asking for help handling day-to-day stressors, and spending time alone, in the quiet, often outdoors. but change feels <i>good</i>, and success feels <i>good</i>, and so i feel <i>good</i>. i'm "better" and i'm so glad about it.</div>
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until it's too much and i fall apart all over again.</div>
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in november of last year i had an idea: i would start a print shop. and in february of this year, i started it, right alongside my other business. and by the end of 2012, that print shop will almost certainly gross more than $100,000. possibly even significantly more than that. by the end of its second year i expect it will gross in the quarter-million range. <span style="background-color: white;"> </span><span style="background-color: white;">if i can keep up with it. which already i can't.</span><span style="background-color: white;"> </span></div>
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which is where the impending breakdown comes in. i can see already how it will happen. i'll continue to work like crazy, pushing the business to grow even as it has already outstripped me of my ability to keep up. i'll bring on new and awesome customers. i'll buy more equipment and continue to talk about hiring. i might even actually hire. i'll work evenings and weekends to stay relatively on top of things, even though i'll feel perpetually behind. and then some life stressor, like a sick child or a car accident or some other uncontrollable and disconcerting event, will reduce me to an anxious mess. i won't be able to eat or sleep. i'll spend my time taking xanax and watching teen dramas from the CW on netflix for weeks, at which point i'll substitute healthier behaviors like reading and doing puzzles for the xanax and teen dramas, taking a month off from work to recover.</div>
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i tell myself that i work the way i do because we need the money.</div>
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i tell myself that i work the way i do because i need to feel empowered.</div>
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i tell myself that i achieve things because i'm smart and achieving things comes easily to me.</div>
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all of this is true. </div>
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we need the money, i need the sense of purpose and personal fulfillment, and achieving at high levels really does come naturally, and even <i>easily</i>, to me. but at a cost.</div>
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which of course makes me feel like i need to make some major, overarching changes. which then of course gets me already started thinking about the amazing things i'll be able to accomplish when i make those changes. perhaps i'll write a book about it or something. or become a guru like leo babauta of zen habits. when i stop being an over achiever, oh the things i'll achieve!</div>
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some things i know that are true:</div>
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i am working too hard now.</div>
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i am under too much stress.</div>
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i spend too much time thinking about how to be more successful.</div>
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i also spend too much time thinking about how to be happier.</div>
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i do not exercise enough.</div>
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i do not have enough leisure time.</div>
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i have too many things going.</div>
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i spend too little time doing the things that make me feel healthy.</div>
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i cannot keep up the pace i have established.</div>
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<i>no one can.</i></div>
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but what can i do with all of this? knowing my own patterns of overexertion / burnout / breakdown / solace / overexertion / repeat, how can i intervene and change the cycle? how can i stop experiencing burnout? how can i stop having breakdowns? is there a place between overexertion and complete and utter solace that might be a healthier, more balanced place?</div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03753553949885480109noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3465642626648012553.post-89507931009042498922012-06-21T15:34:00.001-04:002012-06-21T15:34:16.567-04:00the road oft-traveled<br />
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i have officially reached the point in my business at which i need to hire an actual in-my-studio employee.</div>
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this is something i have been working toward for a long time. in some ways it was always part of the dream-slash-plan, but in an official spoken-aloud, fully-realized kind of way i've been thinking about it for about the last 13 months.</div>
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moving into my own studio, launching aper + pink, and making the move toward working full time have all been important steps along the way. now here i am.</div>
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and i'm not sure i want to do it.</div>
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there are the usual reasons - the strain + fear of becoming not just a creative being and a business owner but also a <i>supervisor</i> and <i>manager</i>; the burden of finding the right person; the hassle of hiring; the fear of possibly firing; the inability to let go; the added expenses of worker's compensation and taxes as well as things like a computer and a chair to sit on; the fear of being responsible for someone else's livelihood; the reality that i would have to pay my employee before i pay myself, which could be a big problem for my family if business income gets light. </div>
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and there are also my own personal reasons - my really-quite-extraordinary need for solitude; my contrariness; my dislike for confrontation in even the mildest forms; the newly-won knowledge that my times of greatest mental-health-crisis are usually preceded by high stress; and perhaps most of all the very persistent fear that if i hire someone, i'll feel (and probably really be) less <i>free</i>. less free in my manner of working. less free to make crazy decisions. less free to take 180-degree turns in my business plan. less free to create. less free to listen to alix olsen in my studio. less free to do this the way i want to do it.</div>
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if there's one thing that running up up creative (and now aper + pink) has given me over the years it's the sure sense that this can be whatever i need it to be at the time. i answer only to my family and my health.</div>
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part of what makes me able to come to work each day and slog through two hours of email and print seven orders and hit the post office on my way home and then do some graphic design at home at night is knowing that if tomorrow i don't want to do it, i don't have to. i can close up shop whenever i choose. i don't choose to, but knowing i could make that choice is part of the allure of the gig.</div>
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the truth is, i'm just not ready to hire someone. my business may be ready for me to do it, but i'm not.</div>
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but there are whispers in my head: <i>what if i'm never ready? what does this mean for the plans? what does it mean for the way i conduct business now, given that the business is outgrowing me already?</i></div>
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i posted on facebook yesterday that i've been taking a minimalist approach to thinking about my business lately: i've been trying to identify the essential (essential for my happiness, for my bottom line, etc.) and then giving myself permission to eliminate the rest. my hope is that this will make it possible for me to make more space for the work i need and want to do without having to hire someone before i'm ready.</div>
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for example did you know that i have the following:</div>
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<li class="li1">a facebook page for up up creative</li>
<li class="li1">a facebook page for aper + pink (set up, but not yet active)</li>
<li class="li1">a personal facebook account</li>
<li class="li1">a twitter account for up up creative</li>
<li class="li1">a twitter account for aper + pink (set up but not yet active)</li>
<li class="li1">a portfolio at behance (nothing there, i think)</li>
<li class="li1">an account at dribbble (nothing there, i think)</li>
<li class="li1">a portfolio in progress at upupcreative.com</li>
<li class="li1">a pinterest account</li>
<li class="li1">this blog</li>
<li class="li1">a blog at upupcreative.com</li>
<li class="li1">a blog/gallery at aperandpink.com</li>
<li class="li1">an etsy shop</li>
<li class="li1">a shopify shop</li>
<li class="li1">jotform contact and order forms</li>
<li class="li1">an x-cart shop in development for aper+ pink</li>
<li class="li1">a big cartel account (with five shop items)</li>
<li class="li1">ongoing design work for snapfish, minted, and glo</li>
<li class="li1">greeting cards</li>
<li class="li1">wrapping paper</li>
<li class="li1">calendars</li>
<li class="li1">wedding invitations + accompaniments</li>
<li class="li1">a print shop for retail customers</li>
<li class="li1">a print shop for resellers</li>
<li class="li1">separate mailchimp lists for aper + pink, shopify, up up creative, and wholesale customers, </li>
<li class="li1">workflowy + asana accounts; dropbox, mozy, and yousendit accounts</li>
<li class="li1">two paypal accounts</li>
<li class="li1">at least six different email addresses</li>
<li class="li1">and more!</li>
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this is not all necessary. it's not even all desirable. it's ridiculous is what it is. completely effing ridiculous.</div>
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things that must stay include this blog, pinterest, Facebook personal and Facebook business (one overarching business page should suffice though), print shop for resellers, one paypal account.</div>
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obvious things to go? the blogs at upupcreative and aperandpink, which i don't update anyway. twitter, which i don't use anymore. big cartel. greeting cards. behance and dribbble. </div>
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but what else? what can i consolidate? what can i eliminate? what pays the bills and what doesn't? what adds extra time and expense? what weighs me down? </div>
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i'm in pare-down town, friends. travel recommendations welcome.</div>
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big shock here: i don't ask for advice.<br />
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my therapist has her theories about this, which are so obvious they're probably right. but the important thing is that i don't ask. ever. and furthermore, i don't even discuss what i'm thinking, so that my decisions - even the biggest decisions - seem to drop into the laps of my friends and family without even a warning. my ideas appear to hatch from me, fully formed.<br />
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so my therapist suggested that i just experiment a little bit with asking for advice. see how it feels. and since i'm learning that people's suggestions are often quite helpful if i'm willing to admit that, i decided to try.<br />
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trouble is, i feel like when i ask for advice what i'm really doing is looking for someone to give me permission to come to a conclusion i have already reached.<br />
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perhaps i ask too late in the decision-making process?<br />
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what i'm finding i much prefer - and find very effective - is listening to the almost off-hand comments people make to me in my daily life. the questions they ask, or the jokes they make, or the things they tease me about. like my uncle who read <a href="http://upupcreative.blogspot.com/2012/05/may-take-away.html" target="_blank">my blog post from last week</a> and told me to take it easy and go grocery shopping already. or the friend who, upon hearing my somewhat crazy idea of starting a print shop asked me if i wasn't worried that it would get too overwhelming. or the therapist who suggested i might want to start asking for advice. or who upon telling me that she couldn't meet at our usual time and we'd have to skip a session suggested i still reserve that hour and do something relaxing like get a massage (and did i? no. but i should have).<br />
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these little things - these small bits of whatever you want to call them - i'm learning that they're actually pieces of wisdom. and in my opinion - or my experience - they're best when i didn't go out seeking them.<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03753553949885480109noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3465642626648012553.post-18975736847731295262012-05-31T21:41:00.001-04:002012-05-31T21:41:38.980-04:00may take-away<br />
it's may 31st, month's end, and i'm frustrated tonight. this month was totally great for my business: sales were (very!) high, customers were awesome, feedback was excellent. i got two new printers (bringing my tally to five), hired a virtual assistant, and made a lot of great business connections at NSS. i spent a lot of the month feeling really great about things.<br />
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but holy hell i worked my ass off. when i wasn't busy, i was beyond busy. there were days this week i was actually sweating, not from the heat but from my own frenzied work pace. i got no exercise this week. or last. didn't even have time to walk to my therapist's office like i usually do for my appointment. i was late picking up the kids twice this week and worked each night here at home until ten.<br />
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we have had an empty fridge since monday (it currently contains: week-old olives, soy milk, a baggie of leftover bacon, bread machine yeast, a smattering of condiments, a mostly-full tub of hummus, a few slices of american cheese, one 6oz. container of vanilla yogurt, V8 juice for the kids (the kind with fruit and veggies, not just the regular kind), diet coke, a few random beers, two kinds of jelly, and a bag of wrinkled sweet peppers. oh, and half a lemon i already zested. two weeks ago). neither brian nor i has had the chance to shop.<br />
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i'm torn between enthusiasm for the growth of the business and the sure sense that at this pace, i'm going to keel over.<br />
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i've been telling myself - and anyone who asks, actually - that i feel like i just need a few more months of this and then i'll be in the position to hire someone to help. my burden will be lifted.<br />
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which is where the fact that it's may 31st comes in.<br />
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i ran may's numbers and while the plus column is good, the minus column isn't. it's expected in the early months of a new business, of course. when i started this endeavor i calculated that it would be 9 months before i'd be breaking even, and i'm only 3.5 months in. trouble is, ignoring the usual kinds of "starting a new business" expenses, like buying new printers and such, operating expenses are (understandably) high. the question is, can i up my sales volume enough to allow for an employee when i'm already working at my own capacity? how can i increase my through-put capacity without working any harder, or longer? how can i make more money appear in the plus column without adding stuff to the minus column, or working through the night seven nights a week?<br />
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i've had offers of help, and the offers have been awesome. people have been so kind and willing. but i'm sitting here trying to plan for long-term viability, and free help isn't going to get me there. if the business model isn't working, it needs to fail on its own, not succeed with the help of kind free-working souls. otherwise, i can't figure out how best to strengthen it so that it <i>can</i> stand on its own, paying the people who make it work.<br />
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so i guess the take-away from may is this: things are good, very good, even, but not as good as my sanity needs them to be. i'm very happy to be able to keep putting money back into the business - to buy equipment and such - but i need to be able to do more than that.<br />
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bring it on, june.<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03753553949885480109noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3465642626648012553.post-59334569154922918972012-05-23T20:47:00.000-04:002012-05-24T10:03:26.128-04:00nss, a year later<br />
i got back yesterday from NSS, which officially ended today. as i said on my facebook page, attending was in many ways very like those scenes in tv shows when characters are being brainwashed: intense visual stimulation, unending interaction, a constant thrumming pulse. i had a new idea with each passing minute. i scribbled notes and put reminders in my phone. i met all kinds of awesome and wonderful people.<br />
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then last night i conked out <i>right in the middle</i> of an episode of <i>lost</i> where one of my least favorite characters was about to not die again. <i>that</i> is how tired i was. but i digress.<br />
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being that i was walking the show this year after having debuted there last year as an exhibitor, pretty much everyone i spoke to wanted to know two things: was i happy to be walking instead of exhibiting (an enthusiastic <i>yes!</i> qualified by a bit of wistfulness brought on by just how awesome everysinglebooth there was), and did i think exhibiting last year was worth it.<br />
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strangely, up until even a few weeks ago i wouldn't have known how to answer the latter question. i would have said something about how i simultaneously learned a lot and felt a lot of resentment about going last year, and how i'm glad i didn't feel obligated to go again this year.<br />
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but when someone asked me this question on sunday i was surprised to say that even though it took an entire year to realize it, exhibiting last year was completely worth it. even financially, in the long run.<br />
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i think somewhere here on the blog i once figured out that during the 2011 show, i made in sales about 20% of what i had spent on exhibiting, which, as first-time attendance goes, is supposedly decent. unfortunately, i never did make much more than that as a result of the show.<br />
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but the certain kind of righteous i was about that financial fiasco (i know the spiel about how you can't look at it that way and it's not about recuperating all of your investment immediately, etc., but to me that seems like, um, crap) led <i>directly</i> to my crazy september experiment which in turn led <i>directly</i> to the sudden realization that i <i>reallyreallyreally</i> needed to start a fine-art short-run print shop.<br />
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and here i am a year later with 200% growth for 2012 ytd versus the same time period last year. and all of that only happened because i went to nss. i only had the knowledge to do it, and the confidence, and the contacts, because i'd been serious enough about my business to exhibit. i only heard the things i heard from buyers about my fantastic print quality because i exhibited. i only realized who my ideal customer was because i exhibited. my growth and the new direction things've taken are <i>completely</i> a result of doing nss last year.<br />
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and it only took me twelve months to figure that out.<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03753553949885480109noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3465642626648012553.post-35154604365589729922012-05-01T12:54:00.000-04:002012-05-01T12:54:18.287-04:00friday: be there or be square<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
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i've been getting <i>serious</i> here so much lately i thought it was time to just share some pretty stuff. this little beauty -- one of my favorite designs ever ever ever -- is <a href="http://www.shareasale.com/r.cfm?u=535595&b=184007&m=17025&afftrack=&urllink=www%2Eminted%2Ecom%2Fproduct%2Fpersonalized%2Dstationery%2FMIN%2D77V%2DPST%2Fbusiness%2Dor%2Dpleasure" target="_blank">now available at minted</a>. (remember, you can save 10% off <a href="http://shrsl.com/?~28v3" target="_blank">any of my designs at minted</a> using the code SHOPNV5FV6.)<br />
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<i>enjoy!</i><br />
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this weekend, i admitted some scary things.<br />
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except no. i didn't really. i admitted some very reasonable and understandable and normal things, but admitting them was scary.<br />
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it was scary because of what i feared it would make people think about me. and it was scary because of how it made me feel about myself.<br />
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i admitted that sometimes, especially when i'm having a hard time personally, like when i'm anxious, i feel like i:<br />
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shouldn't be a mom<br />
don't know how to be a mom<br />
don't enjoy being a mom<br />
can't take care of my kids<br />
can't even take care of myself<br />
wasn't meant to be a mom<br />
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and my rational mind knows that this is stuff ALL MOMS FEEL. but my irrational brain feels like i am the worst possible person in the world, i am selfish, i am going to ruin my children and my marriage, i am broken, i am crazy, i will never feel better.<br />
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but of course none of this is true, at least not as long as i keep talking about it and keep rational about it. we moms, we LOVE our children, but we don't always love being with them, and why would we? they need us <i>constantly</i>. and even when they don't have physical <i>needs</i>, they have wants. they need us to feed them and clothe them, but they also need us to talk with them, play with them, nurture them, listen to them say the same things over and over and over. and we do it because we love them.<br />
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and it's so scary to say that we don't always like it because we don't want our kids to know. or we don't want our spouses to know. we don't want anyone to think we're unnatural or scary or a risk to ourselves or others.<br />
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as i sobbed and sobbed over the phone finally admitting to a surprised listener yesterday that i often don't like the day-to-day caregiving of being a mom, the person on the line asked me if i feel like my children have stolen my life from me. at first i thought, "yes, maybe that's it." but that's not quite how it is. rather, i feel like i have willingly <i>given</i> my life to them the way we all give ourselves to our kids. i just haven't known how to keep myself healthy and okay in the meantime.<br />
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i work at <i>least</i> 40 hours a week, but my kids are only in daycare 17 hours a week. often, especially lately, i take my kids to the studio with me, sitting them on the floor with a laptop and a movie and plying them with snacks, paper and pens, cardboard boxes, lunch. they are good when they're there and they look forward to it, but obviously it's hard. from water spills i have to clean up to the jelly footprints all over my floor from someone who stepped in her bagel and then walked all over the studio, it's hard. they need me and i need them. i need to take care of them. i need to look at the pictures they draw while they're sitting on my studio floor. i need to take them to see the dogs my studio mates keep. i like the idea of having them there with me, having them know their mom as a person in the world, having them see my work and be creative with me.<br />
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but the reality is that it's hard.<br />
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duh, right?<br />
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the trouble i have is that for as self-aware as i seem, i can be really clueless when it comes to my own mental health. it wasn't until i started back up with therapy recently to deal with my anxiety and panic attacks and a specific phobia i have that i realized that underneath it all, i'm really depressed. i'm a mess. i work and i take care of the kids and i do almost nothing else, least of all take care of me. i shower every other day, and only because my hair looks too awful if i go longer than that. i don't take walks anymore, even though taking walks is like breathing for me. i don't exercise. i don't hang out with my own friends (because i don't really have any of my own friends, honestly). i never just sit and veg. i don't read anymore. i often work until ten, watch one episode of a show with brian, and then play iPhone games until i fall asleep with the phone in my hand.<br />
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and the clueless part isn't just that i didn't realize how depressed and unhealthy i am. the clueless part is that i honestly 100% thought that my work was my break. i thought it was the thing i do for myself to stay centered and peaceful and mentally healthy. i thought it was the solitude i crave to feel whole and sane.<br />
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i thought that because four years ago when this all started, right around the time evan turned one and i had a complete breakdown and had to leave home for 11 days and put evan in full time day care for the next 8 months (until we moved home to rochester and i was home with him 100% of the time again), up up creative was my therapy. making things each day and putting them into the world was the only thing that got me through the long days with evan out of the house. i read books, wrote incessantly in a journal, walked around the OSU campus at will, and mostly i made things. quilts. necklaces. all manner of things. i felt normal and connected and grounded and slowly, i felt happy. or happier, maybe. i felt like a human being again.<br />
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and in the years that have followed i've grown up up creative (and now aper + pink) into a serious business. a growing, bustling, busy business. and it continues to be such an important part of my life and of my sense of self. i love working. i love building the business. i need it.<br />
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but the "make a few things and put them in an etsy shop" beginnings of four years ago are a far cry from what things are like now, and somehow i failed to notice how much more time, energy, and work that business requires now.<br />
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and there's a second kid now, of course, too.<br />
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and here i am again, totally lost. i have given everything -- happily, often, and almost always willingly -- until i've come up dry and aching from the drought.<br />
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and then on top of all of that i've tormented myself about feeling this way. i've tried to ignore it. i've told myself how easy my life is, how much harder it can be. how much harder it is for other people.<br />
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my sister in law told me a couple of months ago about a friend of hers who started working full time after her kids were born and stopped after they had both gone off to first grade and were in school all day. she just knew she couldn't mother them all day long. my exact words were, "good for her. you have to know yourself." i one million percent believe that. i think that woman is amazing and that her kids are lucky.<br />
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but somehow when i even <i>think</i> of the same thing for us here, i cry. i feel like i have failed.<br />
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i <i>wanted</i> to stay home with my kids. i <i>want</i> to. but i can't. i don't know why but i just can't. and that feels <i>so</i> bad. it feels like acid in my veins. i don't know how to take care of them and still take care of me. i thought i was doing it but i was wrong.<br />
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but you know what? fuck it, that's what. fuck this idea of mine that there was one way to do it and i've done it wrong. fuck the idea that each decision i make is a permanent decision and that it will have permanent consequences. fuck being scared that my kids won't know how much i love them. you can't be around me and not know how much i love those two little red heads. how much i admire them. how proud i am of them.<br />
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it's hard because i know that right now, i need extra time. it's like i've been giving myself a penny each day instead of a dollar and so now i need to give myself a buck fifty each day for awhile until i'm on evener ground. i think i went into this thinking, "maybe i could give myself two pennies a day and eventually i'll make it all up." but that's ridiculous. that's not working.<br />
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today i let brian take the kids for a hike without me. i considered going because i didn't want to reinforce my depression and anxiety by avoiding an outing with them. it was a very logical reason to go. i didn't want to avoid them. i didn't want to stay at home and cry or sulk or be anxious.<br />
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but instead i let them go and decided that staying home didn't have to be about avoiding them but could be about looking for me.<br />
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so here i am.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03753553949885480109noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3465642626648012553.post-23411906954663477802012-04-07T12:57:00.000-04:002012-04-07T12:57:14.043-04:00prints in progress<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
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lots of orders sitting ready for trimming and/or packaging. the studio is busy busy these days.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03753553949885480109noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3465642626648012553.post-78699320458872626372012-03-28T13:01:00.000-04:002012-03-28T13:02:09.825-04:00not a cry for help, a cry for changelife here at la maison green continues to be stressful. circumstances continue to suck, sometimes just a little, sometimes more than that, and sometimes a hell of a fucking lot. there have been big stresses and littler ones. some that have swept in quick and fierce and some that have simmered, simmered, simmered.<br />
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back on my medication for anxiety, i find i am less apt to have panic attacks now than i was a month ago, which is good. but now i'm finding warnings creeping into other parts of my life: i wake with tension headaches, for one; my left knee hurts, which makes my left calf muscle hurt, which in compensating for has made my left hip hurt, and that in turn has left me with a weird pain in my left foot. it's totally and completely ridiculous.<br />
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it's affecting brian, too. he gave himself a concussion a few weeks ago (silly, freakish accident involving a cupboard door and a two year old under foot, but still, it seems to be both a cause of the stress at our house and a symptom of it). and now he's the only 30-something i've ever heard diagnosed with shingles (the adult resurgence of chicken pox, which usually doesn't strike until you are in your 50s or 60s, if then).<br />
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our bodies are telling us that our life is too much for us right now. they are screaming at us to figure something out.<br />
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and yet we're able to look around and find people all around us who are in <i>worse</i> circumstances than we are in. we're surrounded by people struggling against greater foes than we are, facing less sleep, fighting stronger viruses and ailments.<br />
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i see these people, and i talk to these friends, and i give myself an "it could be worse" and a "life is hard" and i remind myself that for millennia people have known these things. life is suffering. isn't this literally buddhism's first noble truth?<br />
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i say this over and over to myself. <i>life is hard. it's supposed to be hard. who told you it was going to be easy? your life isn't even that hard. it could be worse. </i>after all, my kids are healthy. my marriage is good. no one in the family currently has cancer. we have a house and two cars that run. we have so many blessings we probably can't count them all. so i repeat the chorus to myself: <i>life is supposed to be hard. it could be worse.</i><br />
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the trouble is, my very core just can't accept this. life may be hard, and yes it can certainly be worse than this, but to me, when circumstances get this bad and the stress mounts this high and our bodies yell out to us that <i>things just ain't right</i>, to me this is when you need to step back, reassess, and change something. accommodate the suffering, maybe. find a way to care less about it, perhaps. or maybe just give the suffering more room to breathe -- take away the things that compound the suffering. make life easier.<br />
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because i'm very open about my anxiety and depression, i find that people often come to me about it. i get a lot of emails, even some phone calls. this shit is widespread, my friends. many <i>many</i> of us experience it, sometimes acutely, sometimes indefinitely. and as you know i'm the first one to admit (and advocate for the fact) that<a href="http://upupcreative.blogspot.com/2009/09/she-said.html" target="_blank"> sometimes, you just need help</a> in the form of medications. but i also completely believe that these times of discomfort, pain, fear, anxiety, sadness -- these are our bodies' ways of saying CHANGE THINGS THE FUCK UP OR ELSE.<br />
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i'm in a place now where i'm just not sure what form the change needs to take. it's so much more complicated to change a family's life than to change a single person's. but my kids are still happy and seemingly unaffected yet by the chaos their parents find themselves embroiled in, and i want to keep it that way. i want to get us back <i>out</i> of the fire so that we can get back to <i>not</i> suffering all the time even when circumstances are bad.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03753553949885480109noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3465642626648012553.post-17592321481821012052012-03-13T10:46:00.000-04:002012-03-13T10:46:00.867-04:00up up creative / aper + pink studio: BEFORE<br />
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yes, the whole room was brown. dark, hershey's bar brown. and there were two layers of brown carpeting covering what we hoped was a cement floor (but which turned out to be an old asbestos tile floor). those racks and things filling the room were eventually removed -- they belong to my landlord.</div>
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<i>(slightly blurry photos courtesy of my old iphone. wish i'd had the new one.)</i></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03753553949885480109noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3465642626648012553.post-8441627857427199002012-03-11T10:31:00.003-04:002012-03-11T10:31:36.092-04:00but but buti'm doing much better these days. thanks for your kind words and your patience these last few weeks.<br />
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i'm back with just a small update on life/business, just a dipping of the toe into the blogging waters. i'm sure i'll be swimming laps again in no time.<br />
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but here's the thing: i wanted to tell you how well the aper + pink launch went, and how well things continue to go on that front. i've got a small stack of print orders sitting here on my desk and have sent out a good number of orders already in the last few weeks, and the feedback has been awesome.<br />
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i mean, i <i>knew</i> it would be. the whole reason i even <i>conceived</i> of aper + pink was because i knew that what i was producing in-house was better than the stuff i had seen anywhere. but it's been so reassuring, and so gratifying, to hear the great feedback from customers.<br />
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i'm sitting here almost a month into things wondering, now, what my next step should be. do i let things grow organically? do i reach out to new audiences and potentially open the floodgates? i have so many ideas and the desire to be bold and grow, but there are always so many buts.<br />
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surely i've shown in the past that i'm not one to let the buts stop me. but still. scary.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03753553949885480109noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3465642626648012553.post-57611419111597578262012-02-26T13:08:00.000-05:002012-02-26T13:08:03.188-05:00attackswhen i wrote last weekend about how work hasn't been helping me through my anxiety lately, i think i may have suggested somehow that my anxiety is itself work-related.<br />
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it is definitely not.<br />
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it's the result of a series of very personal crises that all occurred in the span of approximately a week.<br />
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i never used to have these sometimes weeks-long debilitating anxiety attacks. before i had kids i would get the occasional short-lived irrational panic surge that might course through my veins for maybe 15 minutes tops.<br />
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now i get anxiety that inhabits me and lives inside here for weeks. this is my third bout with this in less than four years, and the fact that it keeps happening both scares me and pisses me off.<br />
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the frustrating thing about it is that it really does come in these little explosions, all at once and with no warning. an event will trigger the initial anxiety attack and suddenly my entire body will be flooded with stress that feels like poison. slowly over days i lose the ability to eat, and then to sleep. i can't be around my kids. i become unable to function. twice now i've even had to go on sedatives to help me get through the toughest part.<br />
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but when the attack finally wanes, i'm fine. fine-fine-fine. fine for a while.<br />
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some women hate their thighs, or their hips, or their stomachs. some hate the backs of their arms or their profiles in a photograph.<br />
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this anxiety is the thing i hate about myself. i hate that it's in me. i hate that i can't control it. i hate that it makes things so difficult for my husband and my kids and all the relatives and babysitters who help us out. i hate that i have to be medicated for it. i hate that it's probably hereditary. i hate that it makes me feel weak. that it makes me avoid stress. i hate that it makes me uncomfortable with my family. i hate that when i'm in the middle of it i feel like i will never-never-ever get out of it. i hate that even if it's not <i>caused</i> by my children, they're a part of it. i hate that it makes me avoid them.<br />
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what if this continues to happen to me three times every four years? what if it starts to happen more often? what if one time the anxiety does settle in and never leaves?<br />
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these are the things my frenzied brain wonders, of course. my calmer self knows that the previous bouts have ended and so will this one. it knows that each time this has happened i've learned something about my anxiety from it.<br />
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but still: it's scary.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03753553949885480109noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3465642626648012553.post-89335392127905016812012-02-18T13:46:00.000-05:002012-02-18T13:54:06.152-05:00not worki have had a truly rotten, awful week. the kind of awful that you can compare to other kinds of awful and it still seems bad. the kind of awful you can't ignore. the kind that feels like it's causing instantaneous ulcers.<br />
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it has me alternately weeping on my husband's shoulder, bawling in the car, and staring into the middle distance dazedly.<br />
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i'm having trouble making myself eat, which is a weird thing that happens to me when too much of this kind of fight-or-flight stress courses through me.<br />
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and usually, my work is something that helps me get through those times. like knitting and watching crime shows, working is usually something that kind of backburner's the anxiety so that i can feel normal for a bit.<br />
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this week, though, work's not working.
it's not helping.
i don't want to do it.<br />
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i want to curl up in a snuggle with my little boy. i want to read harry potter (it's my first time through - we've just started the first book). i want to watch <i>felicity</i> on netflix. i want to be quiet. i want to listen to music. i want to sit next to my husband without talking. in fact i want him around more or less constantly.<br />
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i want to shut my computer and leave it shut, unless maybe i need to open it to turn on the next episode of <i>felicity</i>. i get to the studio and don't want to be here.<br />
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and i'm not sure what to think about this. i'm not sure what it means, if anything, that all i want to do right now is <i>not</i> work.<br />
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obviously it's not a choice to put work aside. i've got orders to fill, clients waiting on me, emails piling up higher than a young boy's falsetto. i have orders to print (that's what brought me in to the studio today, when what i really wanted to do was curl up with my head on my hubby's lap on my in-laws' couch and watch the DIY channel, hearing my kids playing nearby but without them disturbing me).<br />
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i've built this thing, this business, to need me and my frequent attention, but i haven't yet figured out how to negotiate the times when i don't want <i>its</i> incessant calls to action.<br />
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have you?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03753553949885480109noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3465642626648012553.post-37026502701885163582012-02-14T14:03:00.000-05:002012-02-14T14:03:44.305-05:00aper + pink is here<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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i officially took the aper + pink website from localhost to a live web server on sunday.<br />
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i only told brian.<br />
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sunday night, we went through it and i made sure everything had transferred OK and all, and just basically did a few tidying up kinds of things.<br />
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my plan was to send an email on monday night to the folks who had helped me develop the business idea and flesh out its details over the last two months, then to announce the official launch here today (tuesday).<br />
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before i had even sent my pre-launch email, i had two orders for sample kits.<br />
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by this morning, about ten hours after i sent that pre-launch email, i got an email saying that my order-form account was full and i would need to upgrade.<br />
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<i>already?! in less than 48 hours live, and only ten hours after i had even told anyone about the site being up, i had exceeded my one-month allotment of form submissions.</i><br />
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point taken, my friends. you've been waiting eagerly. and i'm so so glad.<br />
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so without further ado, i give you: <a href="http://aperandpink.com/">http://aperandpink.com</a><br />
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there you'll find pricing, set-up guidelines, file templates, FAQs, etc. you'll also find an online order form.
i know that at various points in the development of this site -- and this business! -- i promised a full-on e-commerce site. i discussed all of that <a href="http://upupcreative.blogspot.com/2012/01/things-i-wish-i-could-outsource.html" target="_blank">here</a> and <a href="http://upupcreative.blogspot.com/2012/01/on-limits-and-e-commerce.html" target="_blank">here</a> so i won't bore you with it again.<br />
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in the end, i came up with a simple but sort of elegant solution that should streamline the process for customers and for me. it should make things run smoothly, which is all i really want for aper + pink.<br />
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the printing is fancy; the behind-the-scenes needs to be utilitarian.<br />
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so now go, check it out and let me know what you think.
oh, and one more last thing. ha! i was lucky enough to get the shop listed on jessica hische's print-shop directory website inkerlinker. i'd love it if you'd go visit <a href="http://www.inkerlinker.com/digital/aper-pink/" target="_blank">my listing</a> and click on "like" or whatever. that would be pretty cool.<br />
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thanks, all, for helping me build this and providing so much feedback along the way. i'm excited.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03753553949885480109noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3465642626648012553.post-6717967636819426682012-02-08T12:40:00.001-05:002012-02-08T12:40:58.373-05:00getting closei'm getting close. i've got my paper and envelopes. i've priced everything, even sample kits. i've just (finally) finished creating all of the (many, many, many!) file submission templates. i'm still down one printer (did i mention that? COME ON UNIVERSE! seriously?!), but i've just finished testing software i need to make my "prepress" life easier.<br />
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and the website is coming along pretty nicely, although i've just noticed that it's pictureless, which is weird. i've figured out a decent order-processing solution that meets somewhere in the middle of "order via email" and "order via a full-service e-commerce website" - a solution that allows for easy ordering and, absolutely most importantly, easy linked-to-the-order file upload.<br />
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i'd really just like to open shop right now, but i've still got a few things to get ready. wonder if i can get it done for a valentine's day launch?<br />
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i will be closed the last week of february (i know, weird timing) so i really do need to push things along or else i won't be launching until march.<br />
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whaddaya think? next week? can we do it?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03753553949885480109noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3465642626648012553.post-5433008913091881802012-02-02T21:43:00.001-05:002012-02-02T21:43:52.888-05:00confluence<br />
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oh, i'm brooding tonight, wondering <i>why on earth</i> i insist on doing things in the most difficult way possible.</div>
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it's hard to exactly explain, though it's easy to point to what put me here. today brought a series of small events, the confluence of which have given me much to think about. the five events were:</div>
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<li>getting my snapfish and minted 1099s</li>
<li>finishing the irritating job of calculating the dollar-value of my inventory for 2011 year-end (which will be used to calculate COGS (cost of goods sold) on my income taxes)</li>
<li>getting an email reminding me that my sales tax will be due soon</li>
<li>one of my printers dying</li>
<li>being notified by my new landlord, who also rungs a digital print shop, though with a different customer base but also a lot more years' experience, is about to sublet even more of his own space as a cost-cutting measure. he's downsizing his employee base and renting out probably half of his space. he's got dozens of printers, many of which sit unused. </li>
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i'll do my best to explain.</div>
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the work i do for minted and snapfish, which my 1099s attest is rewarded financially, requires nothing but couple thousand fonts, a computer, and some design software. it does not require me to file sales tax, do inventory, calculate COGS, buy, repair, and replace printers, or stock paper and envelopes. it doesn't even require me to go out and find customers, or to keep customers happy.</div>
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there's always the chance that one of those (major) companies will go bust, or that my work will no longer appeal to their customers, etc. but damn! DAMN! i spend less than 10% of my time on this work. i should just multiple that by ten and i'd be ALL SET. so little overhead. so little payout. <i>why am i not doing that???</i></div>
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the answer, i guess, is that there's something that happens to me when i see other people running successful creative businesses, abuzz with activity, bursting with energy, busy with employees. i want that. i want to make that happen and to stand in the middle of it.</div>
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i got an email from the CEO of minted this past december in which she recounted the busy holiday seasons of minted's first years in business -- the year that they realized they were about to hit through-put capacity and had to immediately pull any advertising they could possibly still pull, for one. the year they had to call in their husbands, friends, and family members in order to get everything out the doors.</div>
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it sounded like completely wonderful chaos. and i do NOT like chaos.</div>
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but its hard to see lots of businesses around me in S-O-S. kodak, for one. my landlord, who maybe isn't in S-O-S exactly but who is definitely in pare-down mode. </div>
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now more than at any other time, even more now than when i shelled out all those big bucks to exhibit at nss let year, i'm standing at the edge of a chasm and i'm about to jump, and while i feel confident that i'll make it to the other side of this particular span, i've got to admit that i can't see what's lurking on the other side.</div>
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and with things like COGS and sales tax and dead printers that are more expensive to repair than to replace, i guess it's only natural to take a moment before jumping. and with 1099s showing me the alluring options on this side of the chasm, i suppose i'd be crazy not to be muddled tonight. brooding.</div>
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it would be wisest of me to stand here on this side. not only wisest, but possibly <i>healthiest</i> (from a wellness standpoint) and also <i>best</i> (from a mom standpoint). these are things i really <i>believe</i>, not just things i'm supposed to say. i really <i>truly</i> believe that if i could just find a way to stay happy here on this side, i'd be better off. healthier. happier. </div>
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but i can't shake the allure of spanning the chasm. </div>
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i can't stop wanting to be one of the few who takes the leap.</div>
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so i guess we all know i'll probably jump.</div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03753553949885480109noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3465642626648012553.post-33425845225866145562012-01-26T22:08:00.000-05:002012-01-26T22:08:00.389-05:00demystifying daycare, a plea<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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i had some helpers with me this week since the babysitter was sick (only emily is pictured here, but evan helped too) and it made me remember that i have a question that i'd like to ask everyone. everyone anywhere. i would like about 1000 comments on this post because i'm interested in ALL of the options. </div>
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my kids are in an <i>awesome</i> in-home daycare. but for a list of reasons that is important but not really right for delving into here on the blog, things are going to have to change with the daycare situation and because this change will more or less coincide with evan heading off to kindergarten in the fall, I NEED TO KNOW WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT.</div>
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how do you make half-day kindergarten + a younger sibling not yet old enough for pre-school (emily misses the cut-off by days and won't be able to go to preschool until she's a teenager, or so it seems) + a growing self-owned business that requires regular if not 100% full-time daycare?</div>
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i mean, on the one hand a nanny seems like the way to go, so evan can come home after school and i can be at work and emily can be taken care of all the while.</div>
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but we've tried the nanny situation before and maybe it's just us or something but nannies get sick a lot and then i get mad because inevitably they get sick when brian has court or some such trivial thing and so i have to be the one to ditch work and figure out how to still get the stuff done and have fun with the kids and not resent anyone or anything.</div>
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plus i like the idea of them being around other kids because again, maybe it's just me but i find that running a business and being home part time with the kids is not the recipe for tons of playdates. i think we probably end up with like fifteen playdates a year.</div>
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but i'm not even sure i have a grasp on what our other options are. here's my list. please add to it in the comments and feel free to (please do!) share your thoughts on making it all work.</div>
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<li>a school-like daycare where the kids are separated into classrooms by age or whatever. this would separate emily and evan.</li>
<li>another in-home daycare, but i think this would need to be near home because of the aforementioned kindergarten thing, right? in other words, it would be best located in our school district or else i'd be leaving work in the middle of the day to chauffeur evan, right?</li>
<li>a nanny.</li>
<li>a shared nanny, like shared with another family or something, so that there could be more kids hanging out and being friends? maybe this is something i invented in my own wishful head.</li>
<li>latchkey for evan and something separate for emily. to the very best of my recollection i literally did not know kids with two working parents as an elementary school child, and so to me latchkey was this foreign place in the gym and the cafeteria where the weird kids went (i'm just being honest about my 8 year old prejudices here, folks) and maybe there they did weird things or maybe weird things were done to them? but maybe it's different now? or maybe it was always different? discuss.</li>
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there was a time, right after evan was born and lasting, i dunno, a year or more, that i wrote here every day. it went like this: get up, feed the baby, eventually eat something and get dressed and brush my teeth, do the day, whatever the day was to be that day, do dinner for the baby, eat with brian, kid bed, BLOG. and then after blog, or sometimes before, or during, FLICKR.</div>
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it was just part of the day.</div>
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now i feel like my days are so overrun with everything else the blog is reserved for whenever-i-can-find-the-damned-time. (and flickr? i'm not sure i've used it once since i uploaded the pictures from NSS last may).</div>
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and no, whenever-i-can-find-the-damned-time does not include now.</div>
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but i've been working so hard on bringing you (and the world!) aper + pink that i forgot to tell you along the way what it's like bringing a new business into the world when it's, like, a planned-in-advance business.</div>
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up up creative happened and grew and became. it was an unplanned but very much wanted pregnancy and it has grown to be a very pleasant child.</div>
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aper + pink was 100% planned, and while the execution (gestation?) has been purposefully condensed into a short, short period of time, it has at times felt like this overwhelming <i>beast</i>. not the business idea, but everything that goes into making a business idea happen at a certain time and on purpose.</div>
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there has been ordering, or i suppose i would be telling a truer truth if i were to say there has been 90% order planning (and unplanning, and replanning, and second-guessing, and third-guessing, and then back to the second guess, no maybe the first) and 10% actual ordering.</div>
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there has been physical organization and orientation.</div>
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there has been a lot of really awesome pre-launch marketing -- getting out there and talking to the people who i want to be my customers -- which has also served as pre-launch survey-taking and focus group polling.</div>
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but holy hell there's so much <i>thinking</i> that goes into this, and i don't mean the angsty "what on earth am i doing with my business" kind of thinking that i've gone through at regular intervals with up up creative. this thinking is more like, "okay. i have a plan. in my mind it is as clear as day. how do i get it across to other people in a way that makes it as crystal clear and fantastic?"</div>
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i'm a decent communicator. a decent teacher. i can usually take a large pile of information and carefully, <i>skillfully</i>, condense it into its finest, most digestible self. but taking the fine, digestible <i>idea</i> and building all the necessary scaffolding to hold it up to the sun? </div>
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i've tried three separate times now, or i guess four, to outsource the design and development of the website for aper + pink. i've also developed three almost-complete e-commerce websites. and each time i've changed course, or made the plea to others for help with the coding work, or the design, i've not seen that the real issue is this: i'm having trouble wrapping my head around all the <i>content</i>, and instead of sitting down with that i've been trying to throw Function and Pretty at it. </div>
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oh that i could pay someone to climb inside my head and grab all the bits and bobbles related to aper + pink and then put them through some kind of strainer and turn them into the actual stuff of the business. </div>
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which is to say: i'm going to have to take the next few days to climb inside my head and gather bits and bobbles and spend the time it will take to actually mold them into the business. i was really hoping i could avoid that part by hiring out the website work.</div>
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i guess i may do it all myself after all, since the very hardest part is on me.</div>
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i've spent a good portion of all available free time over the last three weeks -- which admittedly, with the holidays and moving into the new studio and all, hasn't been much free time -- working on the e-commerce site for the new print shop.<br />
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any of you who has spent any time setting up, comparing, designing, or implementing an e-commerce site feels my pain, i'm sure.<br />
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and all that pain has been tripled as i've simultaneously developed three different carts at the same time, pitting each against the others in a battle of design accessibility, pure e-commerce power, technical support, customer service, and ease of use.<br />
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i've run the up up creative e-comm site on, i realized recently, four different e-commerce platforms over the span of not-quite-two-years and i've extensively tested an additional three platforms.<br />
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each has its strengths and weaknesses. each drew me in for one reason and drove me away for another.<br />
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just a few days ago i got a very kind email from someone who had been visiting my up up creative e-comm website for inspiration as she looks to build her own stationery biz site in the coming months. she cited mine as being very user friendly, i think. i get weekly emails asking who designed it. so i like to think that it's a decent site.<br />
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but i'm here to tell you: i often consider nixing the e-commerce functionality on that site.<br />
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i'm sitting here on a sunday night wondering why i'm spending so much time developing an e-commerce presence for aper and pink (the new print shop, for any uninitiated folks out there in readerland).<br />
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there are a few reasons why, but chief among them are these:<br />
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1 - the custom design and print-shop work i do is complicated. people have questions. they have special requests, want special sizes, want to combine and uncombine and recombine things. they think their project is different, somehow, than what they're seeing on the page in front of them, and often they're right: it is different. having a functional e-commerce site tends, in my experience, to make people see limitations as brick walls. if only five sizes are listed for sale on an e-commerce website, it's easy to assume that those are the only five sizes available.<br />
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2 - i do not see myself in the goods business as much as i see myself in the service business. sure, my customers and clients walk away with tangible (and sometimes intangible) goods, but the value that they get from coming to me rather than going to someone else is that i provide a service. i make their lives easier, or i accomplish something they didn't think could be accomplished. i think e-commerce sites work very well for goods-based businesses but do not apply quite so neatly to businesses like mine when part of the lure is that you can get something made just for you.<br />
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3 - i am equally ignited in my work by two things: the things i create and the people i create them for. i like working with and speaking to those people at least somewhat directly (if digitally over email, much of the time). e-commerce sites, when they work properly, they make it so that the buyer and the seller needn't interact. this is the thing that's perhaps got me the most hung up. i don't like not interacting.<br />
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4 - i do pretty alright, sales-wise. my business continues to grow. but here's a little secret: the percentage of my income that comes from sales through upupcreative.com is, well, insignificant would be too harsh a word, but it's close. most of my sales come from emails, phone calls, or convos on etsy. they come from someone asking me a question and me answering it. and i kind of think that's the way it should be.<br />
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of course <i>i</i> insist on doing much of my shopping online. i don't like pushy sales people. i don't even like pushy sales emails. i am turned off by sales, discounts, and promotions. i know what i like, what i want, and what i need and i don't need anybody trying to convince me of anything. but if i'm looking to buy something complicated, or special, or whatever, i prefer for there to be a person on the other end of things.<br />
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nothing makes me crazier than a lame website. i like knowing enough to be able to create kick-ass websites for my businesses that do what they need to do and do it well. i've (gasp!) enjoyed working through the development of these three side-by-side comparison demos of the new aperandpink.com shop because it's rewarding making the technology bend to my will and do it prettily.<br />
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i just wonder if it's worth my time when it may actually work at cross purposes to my businesses' objectives. sure, e-commerce sites may save me time processing orders and sending and chasing after invoices, but they do not help me build, for example, a safe haven for graphic designers who want high-quality, kick-ass print services they can't get elsewhere. they don't help me convince my wedding and print customers that the sky's the limit. instead, they suggest quite the opposite: that there's a very specific set of parameters defining what's possible.<br />
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i realize it's crazy, but i'm considering heading off in a new direction with my websites. i'm considering turning away from e-commerce and towards gallery- and info-based sites. it's very 2004, i know. give potential customers as much as i can in terms of inspiration and information (pricing, ideas, etc.) but then let them come to me when it comes time to order, which is what many of them do now anyway.<br />
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what do you think?<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03753553949885480109noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3465642626648012553.post-45737951991639744572012-01-04T11:14:00.000-05:002012-01-04T11:14:30.346-05:00julie's first day outfour strange and unusual things i did this morning:<br />
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<li>i showered. i showered even though i showered yesterday. i did this because crap! i am going to see actual people today! every-other-day showering is for people who work at home, damnit!</li>
<li>i packed a lunch. kinda. i'm way out of practice on this and really more like threw some food into some containers and put it all in a wegman's bag and who knows if there's enough food or too much or what.</li>
<li>i stopped at starbucks because i've got a gift card and i stood in line and i did this weird internal dance to the tune of "i'm a commuter commuting to my studio that is not in my house and i'm standing in line at starbucks with other people who are commuting to places of employment that are not in their houses."</li>
<li>i packed my laptop into an ill-fitting laptop bag because, oh, did i mention, i'm not going to be at my house today, and being not-at-my-house will not work so effectively without my laptop.</li>
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and also, two things i would normally be doing today that i kind of forgot i won't be able to do today from not-at-my-house and hmm, this is going to take some getting used to:</div>
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<li>laundry. i have at least three full loads to do and usually i'd sort of throw one in here and there throughout my at-home workday. need a new plan. your advice is welcome.</li>
<li>make pizza dough. also not going to be possible from the studio. which means that dinner tonight? i'm going to have to figure something out. more advice welcome.</li>
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this is going to be weird. good-weird, but <i>weird</i>.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03753553949885480109noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3465642626648012553.post-31087554275272428152011-12-06T20:43:00.001-05:002011-12-06T21:08:56.228-05:00kick-ass short-run fine-art printing heading your wayrichard branson, i learned today, started his airline because when he was in the music biz he hated flying on other people's airlines and he thought to himself, "i can do it better." and then he did it.<br />
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yes, i'm comparing myself to richard branson, because we're totally analogous. in this one case.<br />
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so, here's the basic deal...</div>
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as you probably <i>very </i>well know by now if you're a reader of thishereblog, i've been running a design studio / print shop / online retail establishment for more than three years now, and every six months or so I go through the old <a href="http://upupcreative.blogspot.com/2010/05/or-not-to-outsource-that-is-answer-with.html"><span class="s1">"should I or shouldn't I outsource" debate</span></a>. </div>
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to date, other than my wrapping paper which i had offset printed here in rochester, i've kept all printing in-house, but not for lack of <i>trying</i> (at times) to outsource.</div>
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at one point quite recently, after the 33 weddings that came of the september experiment, i decided something needed to give. so i went out into the "street" and asked every short-run-type graphic designer i could think of (and read every related post on every related forum) and i came up with a list of seven or eight printers to try.</div>
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cut to mad spree of account setting up and sample ordering.</div>
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then cut to me getting the samples and being un.happy.</div>
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then cut to me being frustrated and wondering why there isn't someone out there who will print my orders on MY printers with MY inks and cut them on manual cutters in small batches, paying close attention to things like making sure things are centered and even and that, you know, <i>crop marks aren't showing</i> (one of the top-recommended print shops actually sent me my order with crop marks visible on almost 20% of the order they were cut that irregularly) and generally doing things the way i insist on doing them. (<a href="http://upupcreative.blogspot.com/2011/11/on-question-of-what-my-art-is.html"><span class="s1">as i've said before</span></a>, like it or not, i care deeply about quality and paper and the art of printing.)</div>
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cut to me waking up on a sunday morning <a href="http://upupcreative.blogspot.com/2011/11/oh-yeah-thanks.html"><span class="s1">with an epiphany</span></a>: i am in a perfect position to be the printer i am always looking for. i've made the contacts, i've got bulk accounts with major paper distributors who ship to me straight from the mill at a crazy discount if i order thousands of dollars' worth at a time and can do it on their production schedule. i've got equipment and lots of practice being a perfectionist about printing.</div>
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and so. so so so.</div>
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i will be opening a short-run print shop. actually, it will be a</div>
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<i>designer-loving</i></div>
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<i>kick-ass</i></div>
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<i>anything-but-basic</i></div>
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print shop equipped with everything you need to wow your clients and amaze your friends.</div>
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i'll be featuring vibrant, water-resistant pigment inks and all the best cotton, recycled, and bamboo paper you can imagine. oh, and want something a bit more exotic? how about sugar cane? kenaf? or perhaps some self-adhesive kraft paper? done.</div>
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the thing is, for most people, printing is the un-fun part. it's the tedious, error-ridden part. it's the part that brings swear words to their lips and tears to their eyes. it incites arguments between otherwise happily engaged couples just trying to keep invitations personal, practical, and affordable.</div>
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but I love it. i love learning the tricks and figuring out how to avoid the troubles. i like discovering new methods and new substrates.</div>
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i mean, i read blogs about printing. i really do.</div>
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the official launch will be in february 2012 at aperandpink.com but in the meantime, i'm always still print-print-printing along. i'm bringing on new customers now and hope to continue doing so as february approaches.</div>
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and now you finally know what i've been scheming. yay!</div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03753553949885480109noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3465642626648012553.post-31625213645450971082011-12-02T11:05:00.001-05:002011-12-02T11:09:09.186-05:00on the importance of disappointment<br />
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i realize this may be a little bit too much info for <i>some</i> of my readers, but i promise i won't dwell on it long.</div>
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emily was conceived on our first try. we had kind of talked about another baby a little bit here and there and then one saturday afternoon, on a hike with evan, we decided that it would be OK to start trying to have another baby, figuring that it might take a little while and that by the time the baby would be born, evan would be 3 or so.</div>
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cut to me, two weeks later, peeing on a stick and running sneakily out to the kitchen to brian to show him and ask, "could this even be possible?" and possible it apparently was.</div>
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hormonal teenagers take note: it can happen on the first try.</div>
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we were excited, of <i>course </i>of<i> course, </i> but i also remember thinking that there's a very good thing about having to try for a few months before a baby is conceived: the disappointment of <i>not</i> being pregnant a few times solidifies in your minds that you really <i>really</i> want to have a baby. when the baby just appears in your belly without any prior disappointments, it can be jarring. even confusing.</div>
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which is why on monday of this week, i started looking for studio space despite all of the unsureness i was feeling on sunday. i decided that the only way to know for sure how i felt about it was to look and to either fall in love with the idea or not fall in love with it. i decided that i would look and force myself to suffer the possible euphoria and disappointment that would come and that would help me know whether to go for it or not.</div>
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the first space i fell in love with was smaller than my attic. the price was <i>ohsoright,</i> but smaller? that's a no go. and there it was: real, true disappointment.</div>
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the second space i considered was <i>far</i> too expensive and while it was close to the kids' babysitter's house, it was surrounded by accounting firms and medical offices. and yet: even more disappointment.</div>
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by the end of the week it was abundantly clear: whatever i feel about going full-time (still not ready) and hiring an employee (ditto), i am completely ready to take the next step and move this gig out of the attic -- where i bump my head on the ceiling each time i stand at my paper cutter -- and out into the world.</div>
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the place i settled on is ridiculously perfect even in its imperfection. it's a room of its own, with ceilings that i couldn't even hit my head on if i drank fizzy lifting drink, settled snugly into a corner of the space shared by <a href="http://www.booksmartstudio.com/">booksmart studio</a>, <a href="http://www.pistachiopress.com/">pistachio press</a>, and a small cadre of other artists. i feel like it should be called "both-and studio" because it's both separate and connected, both private and shared, both mine and not mine, both still-just-me and not-still-just-me.</div>
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i move in january.</div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03753553949885480109noreply@blogger.com0